Identity. If you were to look at me, you would identify me as an overweight white female with red hair, tattoos, and piercings. You will fail to see the inner workings of my overworked mind. You will not recognize my need to overthink everything and pick things apart until their is nothing left. You won’t notice how I have refused to allow my struggle to become my identity. I am more than that.
I am a feminist. I believe that people are equal regardless of their gender. I believe that women are strong and beautiful, but due to our patriarchal society, women find themselves oppressed. It is ridiculous to me that we are still having this conversation after all the incredible things women before me have accomplished, yet here I am trying to be part of this movement to prove to our oppressive society that women are worth that full $1 instead of just $0.75.
I am an atheist. Not because it’s cool or because of religious oppression. I mean, sure I find most religions to be incredibly oppressive especially to women, but that is not the reason I do not believe in god. I am an atheist because there is no proof or evidence of a god. I’m not an atheist because I want to be different. It’s not a phase or a defense against being able to sin without repercussion. I am an atheist because I cannot believe that an invisible higher power allows so many people to suffer.
I am a secular humanist. I am a humanist because I am going to make sure I won’t want a second chance at life because I did everything I could to make the most of the one life I have. The secular part of my statement is I do not think I will have a second life to try again. I am a humanist because I do not need to be threatened with enslavement in hell to do good in this world.
I am a philosopher. because like Aristotle said “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”
I am pansexual. because love is about more than someone’s genitalia. Love is about more than the gender binary. No, I am not sexually attracted to pans. Don’t be that ignorant. Pansexuality is not the same thing as bisexuality. To assert that they are the same thing is to assert that there are only two genders that one can possibly be attracted to. I am not bisexual, I am not a lesbian. I am not straight. I am pansexual. It does not mean I am confused about what I want. It simply means that I fall in love with a person, not a gender. Hearts not parts.
I am sex positive. I believe that all people (man, woman, cisgender, transgender, bisexual, lesbian, gay) should be able to have sex. I am pro-sex education. I believe that we need to educate people to protect themselves. I think sex is often stigmatized. Men are praised when they have a lot of it, but women are viewed as promiscuous if they do. Sex is fun and biologically something people enjoy. Simple as that. If you want to have sex with one person, have sex with one person. If you want to have sex with more than one person, do it. Consensual sex between two (or more) adults is more than acceptable. Have fun!
I am pro-choice. Women have the right to choose what they want to do with their body. Fetuses are not viable outside of their mother’s body until 24 weeks. I read a post the other day that fits my opinion well. They said, “If my younger sister was in a car accident and desperately needed a blood transfusion to live, and I was the only person on Earth who could donate blood to save her, and even though donating blood is relatively easy, safe, and quick procedure no one can force me to give blood. Yes, even to save the life of a fully grown person, it would be illegal to force me to donate blood if I didn’t want to.” See, we have this concept called “bodily autonomy.” It’s this cultural notion that a person’s control over their body is above all important and must not be infringed upon. We cannot even take life-saving organs from corpses unless the person whose corpse it is gave consent before their death.. Even corpses get bodily autonomy. So to tell women that they must sacrifice their bodily autonomy for 9 months against their will in an incredibly expensive, invasive, difficult process to save what some people view as another human life is desperately unethical. I believe that safe, legal, accessible, and affordable abortions on demand should be available for whomever needs or wants one for whatever reason. With all of that said, I am also pro-adoption and pro-birth control.
I am body positive. I am fat. I have always been fat. For a long time, I was so ashamed of my body and the way I look. One day I realized that I do not need anyone’s permission to feel glorious. We only have one body, so I decided to love the one I am in. Sure, some days I feel ugly and shameful that I love my body, but that is to be expected when we live in a society where “You’re really pretty for a big girl…” I just want society to realize that I am beautiful regardless of my size. I love the space I am in. I am more important than the number on a pair of pants or on a scale.
I am not sorry.